My blogroll

There are so many writers whose blogs I love to read and look forward to, sometimes even wondering where they are and what they are doing, if they haven’t posted in a while.

A few of these are :

1. R. Sativus (https://rsativus.wordpress.com)- I love this blogger’s writing because she was one of my first blog friends, so I am biased and also she is a great resource on nail art and radiates a lot of positive energy through her posts.

2. Sia Positive ( I love the descriptions on this blog about places this husband and wife duo have traveled and imagine myself having traveled with them, also love their cool photos, their poems and above all their friendship.

3. Priya’s versatile recipes for the great recipes which are adaptable and modern.

4. Sarah Wilson at IQS( this is a diet that really works for me- I am a late starter but so far so good and not so difficult to follow either)

5. Claire  from whom I learnt a lot of crochet, when I a was a novice and still learning.

6.Kim Scaravelli whose tongue-in-cheek humor I enjoy and am learning how to blog from her-I love her style.

7. File Cabinet Ramblings for those daily muses and thoughts/inspirations that keep me writing even when I don’t want to.

8. Kathleen Duncan for the strong, whole and wholesome woman that she is – who is an inspiration for many and a role-model to follow

9. Radha Bolisetti because I love her photographs and her views on life.

10. A journey to wholeness for the inspiration that she is and will be for many who follow her blogs and her life.

11. Good Woman whom I have recently made friends with and is a whole new inspiration for me and for many.

12. Notes from the UK– a blog from which one can learn a lot about new places, languages, comparisons between cultures and such.

13. Grandparenting from whom I am learning a lot about how to go about this job, if I become one. This grandmother is one cool and collected lady.

14. Michelle Medlock Adams for daily inspiration and courage- God knows, I need plenty.

15. From the C-Sweet : learn more about an artistic mom and her activities through this blog.

16. Joanne Rambling for news from Down Under, her personal take and her family figure a lot in her blog posts.

There are many more that I love and read and learn from – maybe another day !
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Last week

I have been busy last week- mostly being busy being myself but work kept me busy and I am never happier than when this is so.

Most of my co-workers took off this week because we had a Sports Day in between and combining the weekend they took a long weekend off- everyone is due to be back tomorrow. Their absence made my heart go fonder but is the actual reason I had more to do.I enjoyed being in charge though being the junior most member of the team.

At home every day at 4 am, my cat Sunshine wakes me up by the simple method of jumping on my middle. He then proceeds to look sweet and then when I wake up takes me to the stairs where he wants me to take him to the roof garden I have. When there he likes to browse through his plants and eat a few leaves. This daily ritual leaves me drained and also starts my day with a dose of exercise.

IMG_0942The other thing that happened is that I changed some of the appearance of my blog as per Blogging 101 tasks.

At home, the traffic is pretty bad again as people are back after a long and extended winter vacation. Schools have opened after the Spring Break.

Blogging 101 tasks have not taken as much time as they should have. I have a new writing job too- from the previous writing job, I have carried the legacy of being scared to accept assignments- so I tried to say “no” but this job is following me until i said “yes”. I personally do not understand this task- which is rewriting recipes. Other than the fact that I have become quite good at writing recipes and adding details, I do not see where this is going.

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Dear co-worker(s) in time,

Today’s Assignment: publish a post you’d like your ideal audience member to read, and include a new-to-you element in it.

Dear Co-worker(s),

I would like you to read this letter, so you can understand more about me. I’m sure you must have thought me peculiar while I was with you- that is the way it often is . Let me tell you a bit more about me and perhaps you will be able to understand me from my perspective.

I came to work with you about 8 years back, a novice at administration and office work. I came from a background in medicine where the patient is foremost and nothing else matters other than his care. II  found that respecting and following orders from a person who has  been working there from the time of inception of the office is paramount to everything else, including customer care. I must admit I have found that difficult to accept and this has been the cause  of much conflict between me and the powers-that- be.

In medicine, professional ethics and medical ethics is very important and at the back of every health care provider’s mind. In our office( or perhaps I should say, the office, because I no longer belong), what matters most is petty office politics and buttering up the person who might be boss at that time. I found that I had to spend more time in polishing my social skills and visiting my neighbours in office more than my work. In fact, doing work and being professional is considered taboo here. Because the minute some one starts doing work and becomes productive, comparisons are likely to be made with other office staff and of course, performance appraisals will reflect different appraisal ratings, rather than the standard ratings of 3/5 to which every one is accustomed.

During meetings gathered to discuss the risk and benefits of research on human subject participants, discussions are likely to deviate from the agenda and lead on to personalities of the people who dared to think differently and question the way approvals are provided to research. Again the bigger picture of patient safety and patient benefit is lost in the discussions or arguments about getting researches in which members have an interest in, getting approved. I have tried to keep the discussions focused and trying to take the patients’ side because of my medical background but it has not gone well on many occasions.

I have learnt a lot from working in your team- how to create politics out of nothing, how to not work and idle time away during the working day but yet give the appearance of being hard working by grabbing more talk time during meetings, how to get promotions by playing one’s cards intelligently but calculatingly and how to simply be ‘unethical”.

After my voluntary retirement, I have once again come in touch with my inner self and my true human being- I realised I was putting up a facade while I was there. I am myself once again. Thank you for making me realise and be thankful for the small mercies in my life- to be happy where I was( at home), with my family, for giving me the opportunity to be able to work at home in peace, for making me realise my writing muse and for being a better me.

I hope you provide  other workers good  experiences in their lives’.

I have learnt how to behave better with my fellow human beings and with situations thanks to the office.

Best Regards,

Susie

PS : i sometimes wish I was back there but then I think of the huge personal toll it would take and I back off.

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Hello, how are you ? I’m Susie Shy

Susie Shy- that introverted blogger- trying to say hello to the neighbours. This is a difficult task for me. With my advancing years, I find it all the more difficult to meet new people and introduce myself to them. At the back of my mind, lingers the thought that perhaps I’m making a fool of myself .
It was not always like this- when I was younger, I could head off and talk to people like nobody’s business. Things changed when I went to college and I found out that in my college, there was a tradition for newcomers to be seen rather than heard. This hampered my speaking abilities. Ever since I have had it difficult to talk to new people.
My neighbours are a Middle Eastern : Russian couple, who have been there for at least the 10 years that I have been here. Last year, they had a little baby-so I was forced to go say hello and meet the newcomer.
It took me several days of planning and plotting to decide how to do it. I thought I would do it alone but when my daughter came to know of my plans ( she is 15), she wanted to come too. So the two of us made our plans.
Days of watching and observing made us conclude that ever since the couple had their new baby and with 3 other children to care for, with no domestic help, they were ordering a lot of takeaway. ( aka the large number of KFC and MacDonald remains in their trash). We decided that they would appreciate a good home-cooked meal.

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So we got to work. The problem was what should be on the menu. Given their unique heritage- should it be Middle Eastern or Russian or just plain Susie Shy stuff. I decided to go with Susie Shy stuff- things I know how to make well.
So it was that I decided to fry home made bread in hot oil ( one of the delicacies I know how to make) and combine it with a hot mash of delicately flavoured and spiced potatoes. “Yummy! ” My daughter said, as she sampled some of it. It was hot but tasty.
For the sweet at the end of the meal, we decided to bake doughnuts and ice it as we knew how. So the dough was made and doughnuts shaped and baked- they turned out nice and brown. The icing was my daughter’s work. She had a talent at that sort of thing. So armed with out hot home-made food and baby clothes I had crocheted myself- we went to our neighbour’s house.

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On the first knock, no one opened the door. So we knocked again. Adam, the last but one child, opened the door. He put his golden brown head out the door and his eyes went wide to see us. I imagined him looking at my food with hunger. Anyway he told me his mother was busy with the baby and could we come later.
Though disappointed, we decided to hand over the food to Adam and Ibrahim ( who had joined him at the door now) and left for our home.
A few hours later, Adam knocked at our door- we were surprised to see him. He said, ” My mum can see you now”, so we dressed up in our best but now armed only with the baby clothes, we made another trip to our neighbours.
At the door, Victoria, the mother greeted us in the fashion typical of Middle Eastern homes with a hug and kisses on both cheeks. Of course, I said” hello” and shook hands too. With the hug and the hello, we managed to communicate in spite of our different tongues and traditions.

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Blogging 101: Introduce Yourself to the World

Hi Everyone !. I am Susie here. I started blogging in August 2014 and my blog is available at susieshy45.wordpress.com

To be honest, I was trying to avoid blogging because I am basically a shy person and do not want people to probe into my personal life. But in August, while I was debating on  making a change in career and trying to take up writing, I had to start a blog in order that potential employers might see my writing. So against my better judgement, I started blogging.

In the beginning, I was shy but soon I started speeding up and posting 2-3 times a day. There was so much to write about. It was interesting and I made so many friends online, some of whom I correspond with almost daily today. After a month or two, the momentum of my writing slowed down and I had fewer visitors to my site.

I didn’t know what to write about. Sometimes I sat with an open page and no words would come. What a change from the person who could write so easily. I was lost for inspiration. I tried and tried but could not write. So if you look at my blog calendar, you will see a time when i almost never posted.

Then in 2015, I got back to writing. I went back to the Daily post prompts and tried to write something on the topics provided. I can write with ease now.

The one thing that affects my writing is fear -I am afraid of whether people will identify me through my writing and find out about the person who hides behind the words I put on my blog site. I am afraid of hurting people.

The one thing I would like to do in 2015, is to write everyday and enjoy my writing. I hope also to sometime reveal myself through my writing and become the real me. Till such time, I need to hide behind my facade.