Laugh, even when you are at the receiving end

One of my New Year Resolutions was to laugh at myself or find things about myself to laugh about.

So here goes:

I had a colleague from my previous workplace who had been fired because of an unfortunate turn of events. When the economy was not doing too well last year, the corporation decided to do without a few jobs and save salaries. Instead of getting rid of some of the top salaries and bringing down stupendous salaries, the corporation decided to sacrifice some of the employees who earned less than 1000 $ per month. When the chairpersons asked supervisors for names of people who could be done away with, this particular colleague’s name cropped up because of certain disagreements she had had with the supervisor in past seasons. So my colleague found herself without a job from February 2016. Things were not going so well for her small family. Her husband had a small job in the same corporation but it was difficult to make ends meet with just one person’s salary. To top it all, she found out through HR that she had been made the scapegoat by said supervisor.

Fast forward a few months: I contacted her and found out about her situation. I tried to send various job vacancies to her but most were of a temporary nature and she didn’t qualify or apply – I am not sure which. Over the past few months, I have been sending her job vacancies in various institutions in our university and neighboring universities. In the beginning , she was truly grateful and appreciated my efforts but after a time, I noticed that she was not very responsive to my emails. She didn’t let me know that she had procured a job in an Insurance Company in September last year.

Around new year, I thought of sending her New Year wishes and wishing her luck with her job search, all in good faith. But I hesitated wondering if she would not take it in the right spirit. Today I found out that she had found a job, a permanent one at that ,in another big corporation. I was surprised that she hadn’t informed me even though I had tried my best in helping her.

Remember my New Year Resolutions ? It said – Give thanks- whatever the situation- so I did, even though my heart hurt. So I gave thanks again- felt a little better and then looking down the list, I saw the one that said- “Laugh at things, laugh at the absurdities of life, laugh at yourself.” And that is what I am doing now.

I thought I was being very magnanimous and very giving and all that and hoped that she would appreciate my efforts but instead she didn’t and taught me a lesson in humility. I am laughing now at how the Lord teaches me new lessons almost every day. I am so small, so insignificant and so trivial in the grand scheme of things and I deserve nothing more than a kick in the backside, which I have been given.


8 thoughts on “Laugh, even when you are at the receiving end

    1. Two things, Faye:
      1. I find that the more I do things for people these days, the more I am expecting gratitude from them. Isn’t that so against what we believe in as Christians? Freely we have received, freely we need to give, right ? But as I grow older I find I am expecting at least a Thanks in return.
      2. I am hurt by it even though I try to laugh it away- I need to work on that.
      I am still a creation in the making- not perfect at all.
      When troubles come, I sometimes think God take me away- I don’t want to be in the world anymore.
      I now know why I am in the world- there is so much more work God has to do inside me. Unless I am perfect, how can I be taken to Him, right ?

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      1. I hear you on the wanting at least a thank you. When we were kids my dad challenged us in the winter to scoop someone’s sidewalk without them knowing. It was the most fun we ever had and we never told. It was a great way for dad to teach us that we didn’t always need acknowledgement for what we did.
        I think sometimes we just need to be obedient and walk away….hard as that is. I also think we are constantly being refined and God has begun a good work in us and He will be faithful to complete it. Philippians 1:6

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      2. Thank you for the encouragement, Faye. It really means a lot to me to have a friend who cares enough to write and write and explore concepts of life with me- without expecting anything in return.

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